Funny Mommy-Moments

I love that we all have those old sayings in the back of our heads. You know, the ones your parents used and you swore as a child that you would never repeat them to your own children.

"Life is not fair"
"Because I said so"
"Some day you will thank me for this"
"There are children starving in China, finish your vegetables"


These are a few examples of the ones I heard frequently...a little more frequently than I would have liked. The funny part is that I have repeated every one of these, and most of them, on a daily basis. This morning as a rather obese raccoon was picking through the trash in the can I found myself preaching to my kids. I couldn't help but let them know about the overpopulation of certain species in our neighborhoods. The problem that comes from little kids that don't eat all their food, the food gets thrown away, and the "wild" animals come to the neighborhoods (where it is not safe for them, or us) to eat the food. The greatest part came just as I was finishing my sermon. My three year old looked at me with his huge blue eyes and said with child like wonder
"Mommy, can I go outside and pet him, he can be my friend. I will feed him all my food!!"
I couldn't help but giggle. Moments like this are ones that will never be forgotten. In fact they will be treasures that I will always hold dear~!

Happy 2010!!

I have made the decision to not make empty and meaningless New Year resolutions. It seems every year I make a resolution that I know I will not be able to follow, and then once I fail, I tend to think "Oh well, I knew I wouldn't do it anyway."

This year, I am going to change things up a bit! Instead of restricting the things that I can't do, I am going to make a resolution to increase the things that I can do!! For example, Instead of saying that I am going to give up a bad habit, I am going to do more of the positive things in my life.

So, here it goes:
1. I am going to laugh louder, smile bigger, and love deeper!
2. I am going to be more forgiving, understanding, and courteous.
3. I am going to be a better listener, a better friend, and better mother.
4. MOST of ALL....I am going to be me, I am going to look deeper and find more of the real me, and let her just be authentic.

I wish everyone a happy, safe, and love filled 2010!!!

'Tis the Season...

It amazes me that the Christmas season is already upon us. It also amazes me that at this time of year how Scrooge-like some of us become.

On a recent shopping trip to the local mall, I was not surprised to find that people seem to practice a more Bah-humbug attitude than a kind one toward others. For some reason it is this, the most important of holidays, that seems to bring out the worst in us.

Feelings of pressure, anxiety, anger, inadequacy, and hostility seem to emerge more this season than any other time of the year. I experience a bit of these myself. I find that I get caught up in the whirlwind of the season. Lost in the aisles of the toy stores...trying to find a way to stretch the budget as far as possible. It can be very tempting to purchase today what we cannot pay for tomorrow. For this, our credit card companies are eternally grateful!

Maybe it is just my perception, but it seems that there are an infinite number of toy commercials on television these days. Every one of those commercials are somehow able to convince our children that it is an item that they simply cannot live without. I find this ironic since it is the most influential people in our children lives (us parents) that cannot seem to make our children understand the simple joy in this very important season. Perhaps it is because the spirit within each of us has been lost.

Each year I find myself yelling at a car for cutting me off, or grumbling under my breath because someone didn't say "thank you" for holding a door. It is in that moment that I realize that through example I am teaching my children how to become mini-Scrooges. Anger and greed are much like a cyclone...the more you allow yourself to be taken in, the deeper it takes you. Then, if you aren't careful, you might find 3 ghosts visiting you on Christmas Eve.

Personally, I find that the best medicine for a Scrooge is a smile. The theory of "pay it forward" is needed more this season than any other. It seems that when your willing to give the gift of happiness, kindness, and compassion the recipient is much more grateful than if you would have given them an expensive gift. This Christmas, if you are faced with an eternal Scrooge, the person that is impossible to shop for, or the child that wants everything...try giving a little love, time, and bit of happiness. My bet is that your gift will be the one that they talk about for many years to come.

Merry Christmas! May this season find you happy, healthy, and surrounded with love. :)

What is a "Mousewife"

Everyone always asks me "What is a Mouse wife?" My favorite reply to this question is... "one busy lady!" By definition a mouse wife is either a male housewife, or a housewife that spends a lot of time on the computer. Male I am not, so I have to admit that yes, I spend a lot of time on my computer.
To me, a mouse wife is much more than just spending a lot of time on the computer. I consider it one of my professions. First and foremost, I am a stay at home mom. Next, I am a wife and matriarch of my family. Finally, I am an entrepreneur. I am one of the lucky few that gets to enjoy my family, work in the home, and enjoy a hobby that pays. I often wonder if life could get any sweeter?!

Four little words

I have written several blogs. Most of them tend to be about motherhood and the balancing act that happens in the life of nearly every mom. This time I want to try something a little different.

What does it mean to start and run your own business? This is a question that every new entrepreneur asks themselves as they attempt to compose a mission statement. Everyone wants to have the perfect answer, unfortunately there is no perfect answer. For some I suppose it could be money or control. For others it may be convenience and ease. For me I think I can say that I wanted creative freedom.

My definition of creative freedom means that I can adapt products and ideas into tangible items. I get the freedom to choose the colors, theme, style, and overall appearance of any given item. Sometimes this process is very calculated and exact, other times I wind up with something totally different than my original vision.

I think one of the aspects that I love the most is finished product and the effect that it has on the person receiving it. There is nothing I love more about this job than pouring my heart and soul into an item, loveingly wraping it, and presenting it. Only to see it bring complete happiness to the reciepent. One of my favorite phrases in the world is "Did you make this?" . Somehow those four little words validate what I do. I suppose it's silly to let simple words have such a profound power over me, but when I create a burp cloth, bracelet, quilt, doll, painting, etc. I put my blood, sweat, and yes even sometimes tears into it. Seeing all of my efforts create happiness in someone else makes all of my hard work worth while.

I guess that's where I link the business back to my most important role, which is as a mother and wife to the greatest family ever. I always loved rocking my babies (when they were small enough to be rocked). I would find myself looking deep into thier eyes and wondering what they were thinking and if they would ever know just how much I love them. I'm not sure if they'll ever know but one things for sure the first time I heard each of them say "I love you, too!" changed who I was as a person. Everyday I try to think of ways to be a better person, mother, wife, christian, businesswoman, daughter, sister, friend, etc. No matter how bad a day is or how gloomy things look, those four little words envoke the need for the four other little words. So, for me I guess my business couldn't exist without those four little words, "I love you, too!"

Finding Inspiration

Finding inspiration can be the easiest or the most difficult part of any day! I guess it depends upon what your trying to get inspired to do or be......for me, I find that different things that create a spark in me.

To be a better mom. I find inspiration through my kids. Every time I shout or snap at them and I see the look on their faces, it pushes me to be a better mom. Whenever I see an episode of "Super Nanny", I can relate to what is happening to those people and I try to apply it to my life. Or, I simply think..."Glad that is NOT me!"

To be a better businesswoman "Mousewife", I find inspiration in successful moms like Julie Clark, founder of "Baby Einstein". She took a simple idea and created an empire that was eventually purchased by Disney...wow!!

To be a better wife, I find my inspiration for this area through my husband. He is the rock that anchors my family. He is not only a great husband, but he is a wonderful father, son, brother, uncle, partner, lover, and best friend....but he is the gravity that holds our universe in perfect rotation. I am one of the lucky few that have found my soul mate.

To be a better person. This area is a challenge for me, I try to find inspiration everywhere. I TRY to follow the "pay it forward" philosophy, and the rule of 10. I try my best to be courteous and kind to everyone that I encounter, in hopes that they will repay the kindness to not only me but others as well. The rule of 10 is every time I see someone smile at me, I give out 10 random smiles to others. My hope here is that if we all spend a little less time focusing on all that is not so great in our lives (and we all have it!) we would have more time to savor the joy that is there. I once heard someone say that true happiness is not getting what you want, but wanting what you get.

The key to all of this I guess is that finding inspiration is not the difficult part. The hard part is opening your eyes long enough to see it!

April Showers bring May's Thunderstorms!!!

This has been a month of many thunderstorms, or maybe I should say, the snowball effect getting out of control! Everything from orders to complete, the economy, local election results, and birthday parties coming out of my ears!!

I have had my busiest month yet on the web site, four birthday parties, two cookouts, soccer games, cub scout camp out, and a Mother's Day celebration later, I am finding that I crave stress. As a matter of fact I think I am a stress junkie! Maybe there should be a 12 step program for stress addicts.

The craziest part of my addiction is that I think that it's a fairly common problem. I am a total busy-body and I find that I go crazy when there is nothing to do, I am incapable of relaxing. In fact, I am relaxed when I am creating, weird huh?

The compulsion that drives me to constantly make busy work for myself is my ultimate excuse. I frequently use it as my excuse to not cook dinner, or do laundry. (Brilliant, I know). The deal is, I think that many people in this busy society try to fill themselves up with busy work instead of focusing on the empty space inside.

The empty space is different for each person. My empty space is/was not having a job that allowed me to contribute to the family income (I think). For others the empty space could be all that they do not have or all that they want.

My thought here is that if we try to fill the empty space with all of the wrong things nothing will ever seem to go right. It's only when we find the source of our emptiness and fill it with the right things that life finds the perfect ebb and flo.

So, with that said, bring it on Mother Nature and be prepared to take notes, because this mom is ready for the storm~!!